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Romana
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PostSubject: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeFri Nov 20, 2009 9:08 pm

What is kindness? Where is the boundary between being kind to others and becoming a doormat? Is kindness ever a sign of weakness? Can one be good without being kind?
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PostSubject: Nice   On Kindness Icon_minitimeSun Nov 22, 2009 12:17 am

Very interesting questions. I am glad you asked them. This is highly subjective,
but I will give my take. These are all your quotes Romana. "What is kindness?"
Kindness to me is to do no harm knowingly against an innocent party. This means
non physical or psychological harm, including verbal abuse or neglect. It sounds
reasonable enough. Why don't we do it? Because unfortunately, Romana, most
people if not all are ruled by their passions. Or should I say over-ruled by the more
primitive emotions. So kindness is to do no harm : physical, sexual, psychological,
verbal, nor neglect. If we don't practice kindness we have a pathology or no
conscience. And are over-ruled by our passions.
If we practice kindness do we become a sort of, "...a doormat?" Yes, unfortunately
that is the case in a large percentage of engagements. We can become to be
termed as weak. This is where great strength is required. To if not accept the label,
to at least not fight against the false and entirely untrue label. To be true to one's
conscience and higher moral reasoning. It is in essence a test. Can I take the false
& mispreceived perceptions of my cohorts-those close to me. Both family and friends
and still be ruled by a higher conscience. Plus it is essential to set up boundaries. Just
because i'm kind dies not mean that I will be abused. I will not carry your burden. I may
walk hand in hand with you. I will not and can not do your journey for you. Part I
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PostSubject: Re: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeSun Nov 22, 2009 10:30 pm

lightsun wrote:
"What is kindness?" Kindness to me is to do no harm knowingly against an innocent party. This means non physical or psychological harm, including verbal abuse or neglect. It sounds reasonable enough.
What you describe seems more like basic goodness than kindness. To me, kindness is making the effort to do nice things for people.* This can be as simple as a friendly greeting to your coworkers in the morning, or letting someone with far fewer items go ahead of you in the checkout line; or more demanding things like helping your neighbor take down a dead tree or making the effort to return a lost wallet to its owner. One could easily do none of these things without real harm to others, but doing them brings them benefit. There is an element of positive action, rather than simply avoiding the negative action of harming another. (Yes, I realize one can harm others through acts of omission, and that overlooking something like a mistake can be an act of kindness.) This distinction is the basis for my last question: whether one can be good without being nice.

This is a quick, off-the-cuff definition. I am sure there is more to kindness than this, but I do not have time to elaborate upon my personal understanding just now.
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PostSubject: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeMon Nov 23, 2009 3:07 pm

Romana it is ironic, but if I have not in fact fully covered this subject on kindness,
I have in fact touched briefly on it. I have started a new thread. It is highly subjective
and open to interpretation, and dialogue. It is where Mayflow has his Daily Universe
Sayings. I have started LightSun's sayings. They are very broad statements. They
need more definition, more sharpness, & more precision. They are in effect stream
of consciousness sayings. Saying what is on top of the pyramid of consciousness,
and hopefully working my way down to a more clearly definitive statement. I will
get back to answering your question here later.
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PostSubject: Re: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeSat Mar 31, 2012 10:52 am

Romana wrote:
What is kindness?

In essence it is putting others at peace. Kindness is always peaceful.


Dormant authority.

Romana wrote:
Where is the boundary between being kind to others and becoming a doormat?

It doesn't crash.

Romana wrote:
Is kindness ever a sign of weakness?

Never.

Romana wrote:
Can one be good without being kind?

Affirmative.
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PostSubject: Re: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeSat Mar 02, 2013 11:03 am

Very Happy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p7Gj2IoLYlA&feature=player_detailpage

It's one of Corinna's dream for the nice to be even nicer
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PostSubject: Re: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeSat Mar 02, 2013 12:51 pm

I wasn't born in Texas, but they seem to accept me here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rr37tsF8EAo
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PostSubject: Re: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeTue Mar 05, 2013 11:13 am

hate me and i'll hate you back double
love me and i'll love you back triple
you may think your hate
is not hate
after you've talked to me you'll know
after love with me you'll crow
like the rooster
on a turbo-booster
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PostSubject: Re: On Kindness   On Kindness Icon_minitimeTue Mar 05, 2013 1:38 pm

betrayers of honesty
a kind man stands up for a nice man
against liars and accusers

i dissolve hatred
i dissolve evil sites

in defending righteousness, all that is nice and good & kind

only the most vile and wrong ever try to stand against me

the way of life
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